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Lethal Divorce: here’s your reason, and I’m deleting this tomorrow because I am so...

here’s your reason, and I’m deleting this tomorrow because I am so fucking over this you have no idea.

because you don’t respect my boundaries, because you keep pushing, because you won’t fucking leave me alone when I ask to be left alone and you won’t support me when I want support and when…

Reblogging for posterity.

Here you have it, folks, there are people who will spend 7 years pretending to like you when they actually don’t like you at all.

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I managed to get in the middle of the conflict between my aunt and my dad and my aunt is basically a crazy person and I need to call her back to explain myself and weh. weh. weh.

Florence sometimes your dad is actually right (though he should still explain his reasons)

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Never dating a coworker again

Man internet drama is just stupid

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Wisconsin State Senator Glenn Grothman, the Assistant Majority Leader and a close ally of GOP Governor Scott Walker in the effort to destroy collective bargaining in the Badger State, is taking crazy to new levels.

Grothman has introduced a bill that would require the State of Wisconsin to officially deem single parenthood to be a “contributor” to child abuse and neglect and to put the same into statutory laws of the state.

Seriously…no kidding…really.

If it strikes you as odd that the Wisconsin senate is spending the taxpayers’ money debating this sort of legislation in committee—considering that a full one-third of Wisconsin’s parents are, indeed, single parents—you need to understand a little bit more about Wisconsin state Senator Grothman.

You should know that it was Senator Grothman who informed us last year that “The Left and the social welfare establishment want children born out of wedlock because they are far more likely to be dependent on the government.” This is also the same Senator Grothman who opposed a provision in the 2010 Wisconsin sex education law that would prohibit teachers from promoting bias based on sexual orientation because he believed that instructors would have an “agenda” to persuade students to become gay.

And, yes, this is the same Senator Grothman who wants to defund kindergarten programs for 4-year-olds because, argues Grothman, any academic benefits disappear by the fourth grade, and the program is used by school districts to pad their budgets to get more state aid.

..According to Lisa Subeck, a program manager and family advocate at Wisconsin’s Dane County Parent Council Head Start, Grothman’s bill was written to dictate personal choices rather than to help prevent child abuse. Says Subeck, “Sen. Grothman is inserting government into what should be a very personal decision.

That sounds about right.

And here I thought it was the GOP that was dedicated to keeping government out of our private lives.

My bad.

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RICK UNGAR, writing in Forbes, “Wisconsin Legislator Proposes Legislation to Blame Single Parents for Child Abuse and Neglect” (via inothernews)

Judging from current state politics, it’s pretty unbelievable that Wisconsin is the place where progressivism was born.

(via mohandasgandhi)

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Grrr

So, it really bothers me when people just sort of run towards a chokeholding leadership position for no real reason.

I am currently in a group project where someone is doing that and basically trying to edge me out of really having any input or responsibility, and that happens to really piss me off.

I dunno does this mean I utterly lack leadership capabilities or what? I have no fucking clue. I am stressed out though and I will go home and sleep as soon as possible.

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Actually I am still really pissed off

I can’t believe that one of my closest friends cut me and out mutual friends out of communication without even an explanation or a goodbye or even a “fuck you”.

Now the same thing is happening with one of the remaining people in that circle. I can’t even pretend to understand. I can’t understand this transparent not-giving-a-fuck about the feelings of people who were supposed to be your best friends, your (as Jamie says is the Russian term) moi dorogoi.

Is is a bad idea to just punch everyone?

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Hey, Gary Granger. I have a question.

kaelidoscope:

Why is it that perpetrators of sexual assault are allowed to live on campus, to attend social events, to be HOUSING ADVISORS, even — but two incredibly sweet kids who haven’t done harm to ANYONE aren’t?

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Dear people who are my friends

I am okay with not all of you being friends, and even with you disliking one another.

HOWEVER

I don’t EVER want to see any of you treating each other without civility and kindness. When my friends hurt, I hurt. If you deliberately hurt someone who I am friends with, you are acting against me.

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Stepford Polyamory

Lately, I’ve been reminded that the judgment leveraged at a lot of people at Reed for personal discomfort with polyamory is a major pet peeve of mine.

This might seem odd hot on the heels of my ‘casual sex is okay!’ post, but I feel the need to explain myself. I don’t care if people want to be polyamorous. I may try it someday, though I so rarely find someone I want to be romantic with, I can’t imagine finding multiple people at once, let alone having it work. I also have certain triggers wrt being compared to other people/fear of not measuring up, so at a certain level of involvement, I’m guessing it wouldn’t be good for me. But, it definitely works for some people, and I think it’s an option everyone should feel comfortable exploring if they so desire.

No, what upsets me is the expectation that anyone truly free and loving will be comfortable with polyamory, and if someone is uncomfortable with a partner fooling around with other people, then they’re automatically clingy and controlling.

Maybe if we were all completely rational about love, we would all be polyamorous. The problem is, love is about emotional needs, which are inherently kind of irrational. More troubling, I see lots of codependent relationships where one partner isprofoundlyuncomfortable with the idea of an open relationship, but will also bend over backwards to avoid asserting their own needs, because it’s the only way to hold onto their partner. I’ve reached the point where when I see a monogamous relationship open up, I see it as a warning sign, and I wish I were wrong more than I am.

I suppose my main point is, people should be up front with themselves AND their partners about their needs. Sometimes sacrifices are worth it, sometimes they aren’t. But I just can’t see polyamory as a universal solution, right for everyone who just happens to be well-adjusted enough. If we are all expected to express freedom in the same ways, it isn’t freedom anymore.

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I am so pissed I can’t see straight

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Number of homeless children highest in American history

soupsoup:

Josh Sternberg for Current - The number of homeless children in the United States is at its highest levels in the nation’s history, according to a study released last week from the National Center on Family Homelessness. 1 out of every 45 children is homeless. That’s a staggering number; a majority of them are under 7.

A majority of them are under 7?

Hey guys guess what’s unacceptable?

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mohandasgandhi:

STUNNING Facts On Income Inequality and Bank Bonuses

Stunning facts about bank bonuses on Wall Street, average compensation and homeless kids are shared by The Young Turks host Cenk Uygur.

From ThinkProgress:

In the United States, the top 1 percent controls roughly 40 percent of the nation’s wealth. According to the study, which examined Roman ledgers, previous estimates, imperial edicts, and Biblical passages, Rome’s top 1 percent controlled less than half that at the height of its economic power, as Tim De Chant notes at Per Square Mile:

Their target was the state of the economy when the empire was at its population zenith, around 150 C.E. Schiedel and Friesen estimate that the top 1 percent of Roman society controlled 16 percent of the wealth, less than half of what America’s top 1 percent control.

Of course, the millions of Romans at the bottom of the empire’s class structure — the conquered and enslaved, the poorest Romans, and the women who had little civic or economic empowerment — would probably disagree with the study’s conclusion. Still, it serves as yet another highlight of how large the income gap in the United States has become over the last three decades.

Still, it’s unbelievable that the wealth of the bottom 60% in the U.S. is less than the Forbes 400 richest and that the 6 heirs to the Walmart franchise have the combined wealth equal to the bottom 30% in this country. Give the bankers their record bonuses anyway. They’re doing a fantastic job.

1) Cenk Uygur = celebrity crush omg. Not kidding.

2) Sorta disgusted that the banks get government bailouts only for the rich to try to avoid paying taxes to the government. Taxes: where the bailouts came from.(Actually from IOUs but I don’t know dick about econ so.) I also kind of hate inheritance?

3) It makes the Occupy Wall Street, especially Occupy Portland, movement, if anything seem more immediate and essential when I get back to basics and hear things like this.

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lady-pilot:

GPOY: Lucy and the amount of writing she thought she could finish in the timespan of a weekend.

GPOY: all of the above but replace “Lucy” with “Florence”

(Source: iraffiruse)

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